You want to host a bridal shower at a restaurant, but can't afford to cover the whole bill. Though proper etiquette says it's a no-no to ask guests to chip in, you can still plan a fantastic event for a group of close friends and family. If you are planning a "pay your own" event, be sure to inform guests ahead of time so everyone can plan accordingly.
Assume the role of an event coordinator rather than hostess. As coordinator, arrange the event and all the details, including time, date and location.
Explain the details in the invitation. Avoid using phrases like "You're Invited," as this is the wording used in a formal invitation that is hosted by someone. Instead, use phrases like "Let's Celebrate" or "Let's Get Together" in describing the party to honor the bride before she gets married.
Indicate the date and time, and the restaurant name's and address in the invitation. If there is any question of the restaurant's whereabouts, include a map or directions.
Write something like, "Let's meet up for dinner." This indicates it is a pay-as-you-go function.
Provide the bride's gift registry information or explain that no gifts are expected.
Supply your name and phone number or email address so guests can RSVP. Ask everyone to respond by a particular date so you can make a reservation.
Mail the invitations at least three weeks in advance to give everyone enough time to plan for the event and purchase gifts if necessary.
Tips & Warnings
- Consider holding the shower at your home to keep costs down and eliminate the need for guests to pay.
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