Getting all of your kids to agree on a restaurant may have been difficult when they were young, but at least you had the final say. Planning activities for adults who are used to making their own plans can be a headache, so offer your children a few options and let them vote. If they still can't agree, choose the activity yourself. After what you put up with during the teenage years, they owe you.
Hauling your children around in the back of a station wagon may have been torture when they were young, but family vacations can be pleasant when everyone's able to pack for himself. Visit a large city so that you can tour museums and eat dinner together, but everyone can have a few free hours each day to explore alone if he wants. If your children are scattered in different cities, plan weekend trips to each one so the child who lives there can play host and show everyone around his area.
Your children may have hated school when they were younger, but they'll enjoy taking classes in subjects like cooking, wine-tasting, martial arts or a new language. Taking classes together gives you something in common to talk about, and meeting for a scheduled class means you'll be able to catch up on everything happening in your children's lives at least once a week. Contact your local community college or community center to sign up for adult classes together.
You all share ancestors, so investigating your family history can be interesting for everyone. Enlist your children to help you put together a family tree of both you and your spouse's ancestors. You may have the records and knowledge about your late family members, while your children are likely more adept at technology and can help you research your ancestors online. If your children aren't interested, ask them to help you organize their own family history. Go through old family pictures together. Put them in order and arrange them in scrapbooks.
Everyone likes movies, and gathering around the TV is an easy way to spend time together without breaking out into a bickering match. Let each family member have a turn to choose the movie and host the party. Ask each family member to choose a movie that will appeal to everyone. Skip horror movies and choose comedies from the 1980s such as "Back to the Future" or classics like "Casablanca" or "The Godfather." Snack on pizza, popcorn and drinks beforehand so you have a chance to socialize. Even a child who doesn't live locally can participate if she watches the same movie at home. Put her on speakerphone afterward so you can discuss the flick and choose the next one you'll watch together.
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