Marriage Invitation Wording for Friends

by Mark D. Peters
Wedding invitations to friends can be worded formally or casually.

Wedding invitations to friends can be worded formally or casually.

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Maybe you've been together for years, or maybe you've only known each other briefly but everything just feels right. You've decided to tie the knot. Whether your wedding is going to be a small affair with just a few friends and family, or a behemoth show of regal pageantry, select invitation wording to set the tone for the event.

Save the Date Cards

A Save the Date card is a brief, informal way to let friends know you've selected a wedding date. Common ways of beginning such a note include writing simply, "Save The Date," "We're Tying the Knot" or "We're Getting Married." Print the names of the two people getting married, along with the wedding date and finish off with the phrase, "Formal Invitations Will Follow."

Formal Invitations

Many weddings today, even formal affairs, are hosted by someone other than the bride's parents. Another relative or even friends act as the hosts. However you word the invitation, include the pertinent information: who's getting married, where, on what date and at what time. If both sets of parents are hosting the wedding, include their names at the top of the invitation. Say, "Mr. and Mrs. (last name of couple) request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their children ..." If a friend is acting as the wedding host, simply write his or her name at the top of the invite, followed by something simple such as, "request the pleasure of your company ..."

Reply Card

A reply card can be included with the invitation, and its simple purpose is to allow invitees to signal their attendance or non-attendance at the wedding. For a formal invite, open with, "The favor of a reply is requested by (date)." A more casual reply card is often worded, "Kindly reply by (date.)" Leave a space for the name(s) of invitees to check whether they will attend. For a nice touch, make a line or two for the person to "Write a comment to the bride and/or groom."

Special Situations

If you're making special requests -- such as no children allowed -- use clear but non-offensive language to get your point across. If you're not quite ready to boldly state, "The wedding and following reception are for adults only," phrase it more subtly by writing a personal note to invitees with children, asking that they leave the little ones with a babysitter. If you are on a tight budget, send a note to single friends who you invite and ask that they not bring a date.

About the Author

Mark D. Peters has been a working journalist since 1985. He served 12 years as senior editor for Intercounty Newspaper Group and oversaw editorial operations for three of its weekly newspapers. He has also been published in "The Philadelphia Inquirer" and "Golf Digest Index." Peters has a Bachelor of Arts in communications from Rowan University.

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