Icebreakers for a Marriage Retreat

by Kimberly Turtenwald
Icebreakers help a group of people become more comfortable with each other.

Icebreakers help a group of people become more comfortable with each other.

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Marriage can be a lot of fun, but it also requires a lot of hard work to assure success. Some couples who feel their marriages are in trouble or who just want to work to strengthen their marriages may choose to attend a marriage retreat. At the beginning of this type of retreat, the counselors may use icebreakers to help people get to know each other and encourage interaction.


When the group first meets together at the marriage retreat, it is likely that the only people who know each other are the individual couples. The group can get to know a little bit about each other through a simple icebreaker game. Couples are paired up into twos. Each group contains four people. Each group asks each other questions to get to know the others in the group. They are allowed to take notes. Let everyone talk for 10 to 15 minutes. Once time is up, gather the group together and have each couple introduce the couple they were paired with.

Two Truths, One Lie

The people who attend a marriage retreat come from all walks of life and have different life experiences. Instruct everyone to come up with three facts about themselves, two that are true and one that is not. The truths and lie can be as outrageous as each person likes. Choosing truths that sound unbelievable work best. Once everyone has their truths and lie, go around the circle one at a time, asking each person to list the three facts. The other members of the group, minus the person's spouse, try to guess which one is the lie.


A kiss-off icebreaker works well with the marriage retreat theme. Ask each woman to apply her lipstick as heavily as she can. If she has a darker or brighter color, it would work best. Instruct the couples to stand together around the room. When you give the word, each woman must kiss her husband on the face as many times as she can within 30 seconds. The man who has the most kiss marks on his face "wins" the game. There is no prize, but the couples will enjoy themselves, and this activity gets the couples talking and laughing.


Communication is one of the keys to a good marriage. Being able to communicate with the other participants at the marriage retreat can make the entire event go more smoothly. The more ideas that are shared, the more couples can take away from the retreat to better their own marriage. To break the ice at the beginning of the retreat, select an easy-to-talk-about topic, such as family life, favorite music or life goals, to get the group talking to each other. Choosing a humorous topic, such as hidden talents, something participants miss about childhood or a funny story about life, can be more encouraging to the members of your group. Start with one person and work around the circle, letting each person answer the question. If time allows, discuss each answer in between participants.


Pictionary is a game that many people are familiar with. If your marriage retreat takes place in a classroom with a chalkboard or whiteboard, this game is easier to play. Compile a list of words that are related to marriage, such as love letter, wedding bells or rose. Place the words onto individual pieces of paper and mix them up. Split the group up into two teams. Keep track of the score. The team with the most points at the end of the game is declared the winner.

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