Bachelor Party Etiquette for Who Pays

by Lisa Fritscher
A casino trip can make a great bachelor party.

A casino trip can make a great bachelor party. Images

Traditionally, the bachelor party was an opportunity for the groom to have one last night out with the boys as a single man. Today, parties may last only a few hours or stretch across an entire weekend. Female friends of the groom may be invited, whether or not they are in the wedding. Whatever form the party takes, typically the best man hosts the event and everyone involved contributes financially.

Hosting a Bachelor Party

Hosting the bachelor party does not mean taking on the full financial responsibility. Groomsmen are generally eager to show the groom a good time and are happy to contribute. However, part of being a good host is showing sensitivity to the budgets of the groom's family and friends. Work with the rest of the wedding party collaboratively to plan something that everyone can afford and will enjoy.

Types of Bachelor Party

Although wild parties with strippers and free-flowing alcohol are popular in the movies, the bachelor party should be personalized to the interests of the groom. Quiet dinners, weekend camping trips and casino visits are just a few possibilities. Discuss the event with the groom, as some couples prefer a single "Jack and Jill" party rather than separate celebrations. Although some bachelor parties are quite extravagant, a smaller and less expensive party can be equally memorable. Avoid the temptation to show off, and focus instead on creating a relaxing and enjoyable experience.

Collecting Funds

Taking up a collection can be awkward, so it is best to manage the financial details well in advance of the party. The host should take responsibility for making all payments and reminding the guests when payments are due. Before making reservations, work with the guests to set a realistic budget. It is appropriate for each guest to take care of his own hotel room, although reserving a block of rooms may provide a significant discount.

Guest of Honor

As the guest of honor, the groom is generally not expected to contribute to the cost of the party. Everyone involved may split the groom's costs equally, or individuals might sign up to cover specific portions of his expenses. There is no "right" way to divide these costs, but open discussion is the best way to avoid misunderstandings. Some men are uncomfortable allowing others to pay their way fully, so if the groom insists on paying for something, it is polite to back off and allow him to do so.

About the Author

Lisa Fritscher is a freelance writer specializing in disabled adventure travel. She spent 15 years working for Central Florida theme parks and frequently travels with her disabled father. Fritscher's work can be found in both print and online mediums, including She holds a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from the University of South Florida.

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